Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Considering Prospect of Open Marriage
July 06, 2008Lynn Green
For many years I have heard rumors about Will and Jada Pinkett Smith having an open marriage and hoped it was not true. My opinion is that it is unhealthy and leads to venereal disease, out of wedlock pregnancy and general filth. It’s a form of “swinging”, which is vile.
From a spiritual perspective, adultery is a sin. I recall Jada denying it. However, Will is discussing the possibility of such sickness:
Will Smith reckons it’s healthy to fancy other people when you’re married and has no qualms telling his wife when he does.
The actor – who tied the knot with Jada Pinkett Smith 11 years ago – is determined to be honest about how he feels.
Our perspective is, you don’t avoid what’s natural and you’re going to be attracted to people, Will explains.
Let’s pause there, shall we? I’ll tell you what’s natural. SIN comes naturally. It started in the garden of Eden. It’s natural to want to take a stick and knock a pedophile or other criminal up side the head but why give into that? As humans, we need to resist the desire to do what “comes natural” if what comes natural is sinful.
On a natural level I would LOVE to eat a gallon of strawberry ice cream but my body would suffer and gain weight so I RESIST the desire to feed into the desires of my flesh! The Apostle Paul said that there is no good thing in this flesh and he was right!
So sometimes we have the discussion: Wow, this or that girl is freaking gorgeous. I’m not going to say anything to my buddies that’s any different than what I say to my wife.
And Will, 39, reckons he’ll tell Jada - and she’ll tell him - if they need to have sex with others.
Each will say: ‘I’m not going to do it if you don’t approve of it, he says.
WHEW! I’ll stop there with this perverted sickness. Read remainder of article. They both need Jesus and I’m serious. Scientology won’t get it for them. And what’s really sad is that they have three children all together.
Where is the respect for their children if not themselves? Money won’t buy happiness, love, sanity, or contentment. Look at these two wealthy individuals. Those scientologists have all the material possessions but look how perverted they are!
Thank God I have Jesus. He supplies all my needs according to His riches in glory!
July 6th, 2008 at 7:38 pm
That’s what happens when you don’t have Jesus! Especially those with too much money - you get bored!
It is sad because they can really be an example of a successful black, married couple.
July 6th, 2008 at 8:08 pm
Sad indeed. So much for his “wholesome” image. I’ll just stop right there.
July 6th, 2008 at 8:11 pm
Keep in mind that they have THREE children. You would think their pleasure would come from enjoying their family, right?
July 7th, 2008 at 10:09 am
I guess this is his ‘excuse’ for necking with actress Charlize Theron on the red carpet at the premire for the new movie “Hancock.”
July 7th, 2008 at 2:00 pm
During an interview Charlize Theron said she and Will Smith “fell in love.” WOW!!! That’s a pretty bold statement to make about a married man that is NOT your husband. Also, I’ve seen them on the red carpet with Will kissing her neck. Only your mate should be kissing you on the neck. The neck is a very intimate spot. These people are NUTS!!!
July 7th, 2008 at 11:36 pm
Truly I’m not surprised at all…seems like the higher the celebrity status, the lower the morals…just shaking my head…
July 18th, 2008 at 1:06 am
The words “I do” do not signal the end of your separate and sexual being. But they do signal the beginning of a promise to be open and honest to your mate. Instead of giving this couple accolades for promising to be honest, especially in an industry where dishonesty would be a more predictable path. I would rather hear “I would never do anything without talking to you first” than to hear the same recited vow that has been broken so many times by so many people, many of them claiming spiritual enlightenment. Neither will nor Jada has claimed having an open marriage as far as I’ve seen, they have just said that if a situation of this nature came up, they would discuss it with each other. Which seems rational, honest, and admirable.
July 20th, 2008 at 8:22 am
Aja, thanks for sharing your opinion. The very fact that they have put their stamp of approval on open marriage…the fact that they have been discussing it for years…the fact that they have now given each other permission to move forward with it, it’s pretty clear that if they are not already sleeping with others, it’s a matter of time.
It is a bad example for their children and for everyone else. And they really should not even be putting it out in the street. They need to keep it to themselves. AIDS is real. Herpes is real. Out of wedlock pregnancy is real. Promiscuity never helped anyone.
I saw somewhere on your blog/website—whatever that is, where you insulted those here who speak in favor of morality. Obviously you are all for swinging and that’s truly your business. However, I just want those reading this to understand that swinging does not lead to anything beyond disease and filth.
You claim it’s honest and admirable that Will and Jada are discussing swinging. I beg to differ with you. There is nothing honorable about sins of the flesh. This flesh will get you into all types of trouble if you don’t get it under submission. And let’s call this thing what it is. This blog is owned by a Christian so I’m not playing games here. The devil IS a liar!
My husband fulfills all my needs and I thank God that I took my time and married the right one. I love myself too much to be a slut, sleeping from man to man. And I hope others feel the same way.
November 18th, 2008 at 10:26 pm
I don’t usually post comments, but this one warrants a response. I have been a fan of Will for a long time. I have enjoyed ‘The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air’ as much as the next guy, and I still listen to ‘Big Willie Style’ from time to time. But this topic makes me very uneasy. With that said, I would really like to hear the words straight from their mouths (Will and Jada) before I completely believe it. I’d like to hear one, or both, of them say that they have really put their stamp of approval on this. But from what I have read, it seems to be pretty clear. But I’d have no problem calling Overbrook Entertainment and asking to speak to Mr. Smith himself… does anyone have the number?!
Seriously, if this is true, then I would be deeply saddened. Not just because Will and Jada are famous and not because they’re black. Not just because they have children, or influence or worldwide fame. I would be saddened because this is a disgrace to God, marriage, society, and yes, their family and children. Now, Jesus told us to “judge not lest we be judged,” but that’s more of judging someone from a self-righteous standpoint. I believe it’s a judgment when one puts himself or herself on a pedestal and looks down on others; trying to help someone with a speck in their eye and ignoring a log in one’s own eye. However, God loves what is right and those who ascribe to God’s design, and commandments, can and should stand up for them. We should not forfeit God’s beautiful design of marriage and sex, and overlook indiscretion just because we’re fans of someone.
The Lord knew what he was doing in the Garden of Eden. After creating Eve, God brought her to Adam and said, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24 NASB Let’s examine this beautiful picture. First, God only made one woman, not multiple women. I believe this was because the omniscient (all knowing) God knew what the effects of having multiple women would be; disaster. Look at some of the descendants of the first man, Adam: Father Abram (Abraham), by the suggestion of his own wife, Sarai (Sarah), slept with her Egyptian handmaid because Sarah couldn’t conceive. When the handmaid, Hagar, conceived she immediately despised her owner, Sarah. Eventually Sarah did conceive and Hagar was forced to leave, with no protection and an illegitimate son. (Read Genesis chapters 16-21) And look at Abraham’s grandson, Jacob. He had four wives and, to make a long story short, drama. (Genesis chapter 30) And who could forget the son, and successor, of the great King David, King Solomon. Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines (non-wives), which, in essence, lead to his heart being lead away from God and the demise of his kingdom.
Secondly, marriage was created in part to be an institution (and a healthy one) for procreation and child rearing. Could you imagine if men and women had given themselves to only random sex from from the beginning? We would have way more illegitimate children and children out of wedlock than we do now. Side note: I was born from wedlock, an “illegitimate child,” but praise God that He is my Father! Also, remember that the ancient world didn’t have modern birth control like we do. Think: if we still didn’t have certain types of contraceptives, HIV/AIDS, herpes, chlamydia, and all types of other STDs would be far more prevalent. Make no mistake about it, I’m not promoting the safe-sex argument, I’m saying that some of these weren’t meant to be used. Husband and wife were meant to be able to enjoy the freedom, and blessing, of monogamous sex without the threat of venereal diseases.
Thirdly, and lastly because I could go on and on, God’s design should be regarded because anything outside of it leads to the destruction of individuals, families and societies. Random sex, multiple partners, whether agreed to by your spouse or not, increases your chances of contracting a disease that can terminate your earthly existence. Look, divorce was never part of God’s plan, but the people begged Moses for it. So, he gave it to them. Now look at our nation, we’re teetering at a 50% divorce rate. Children are dragged between homes and split up over holidays, possessions have to be delineated and hearts have to be mended. God’s design is perfect, because God is perfect. And when we take things out of His order (pre-marital and extramarital sex, divorce, etc.) there will be consequences. And unfortunately, it’s the generations coming up that often get the short end of the stick.
Look friends, I hope that the last thing you feel right now is berated and beat up. Let me paint another picture for you. God is not a cosmic killjoy, sitting in Heaven saying, “No, no, no!” God is more saying, “Not yet.” See, His design is perfect. It leads to the best for us and brings us the most joy. Sex is a wonderful thing and there’s plenty in the Bible to prove that. In Proverbs 5, the aforementioned King Solomon, encourages young men to ‘let her [your wife’s] breasts satisfy you at all times.’ God even dedicated a whole book to love, marriage and sex. It’s called the Song of Solomon (ironic), but it’s about King Solomon’s romance with his wife (maybe it was the first one)! My friends, God made sex and it is a good thing, a very good thing in his sight, so long as it’s done within His design. And if you have a tainted past, or are caught up in a tainted present, please believe that Jesus can and will forgive you and redeem your life. He wants to set you free and enjoy life the way He designed it. I am still a fan of Will and Jada, but if these notion are true, then I will be a disappointed fan with a heart longing to see them turn from this wrongful way of life. I would encourage them to go to God’s Word and see what He says about things, and not what might feel right for the moment. Friends if you’re reading this, you’re reading words from the heart of one who didn’t always do things right in the past, but has been a recipient of the forgiveness, grace, and restoration that only Jesus can provide. And I’m not trying to put anyone down, or discourage anyone, but rather encourage you that you’re not alone, and there’s a God who knows you, me, Will, Jada and everyone else on the planet. And as one of my pastors says, “He knows us the best, and yet loves us the most.” May God bless you!
“For God did not send the Son [Jesus] into the world to judge the world, but that the world might be saved through Him.” John 3:17 NASB
Notes:
-NASB means New American Standard Bible (type of translation)
-The names Abraham and Sarah were initially put in parentheses because their names weren’t changed in Genesis chapter 16. God changed their names in Genesis chapter 17 from Abram to Abraham, and from Sarai to Sarah.
November 18th, 2008 at 10:28 pm
Oustanding post, Senator….and welcome to Hicktown. Don’t be a stranger.