In 387 A.D., Saint Ambrose said, “When in Rome, do as the Romans do” and that saying has endured even until today and will endure beyond because it is sooooo true.

I have a message for lurkers (who will hopefully some day join this blog or another blog).  While lurking, be sensitive to the personality of the primary writer of the blog.

There are some blogs that allow for arguments.  I’ve seen blogs where people say horrible, disrespectful things to the blog owner/writer, and that writer simply laughs it off or takes it in stride.  I’ve seen blogs that tolerate filthy language and its owner uses such language.

But…I have seen blogs where the owner tolerates no nonsense. It is very important to adjust yourself to the community that you are in.  Why do I bring this up?  Because yesterday I visited a blog. I know the personality of the blog owner. He is a no-nonsense type. He does not mind people disagreeing with him, but if someone is disrespectful, he will ban the person.

To my surprise, a woman was making a lot of snide remarks to him, which he tolerated at first. When she saw him tolerating her snippy remarks, apparently she thought she could kick it up a notch and she became beligerant towards him. And he drew the line, banning her.

It was an interesting exchange because I also did not agree with him on some of his stances. Yet, I remained 100% respectful of him and he and I were able to have a pleasant conversation. That’s the way it should be. You don’t have to insult someone simply because you don’t agree with them.

To watch my exchange with him, as opposed to her exchange, one would understand why he banned her. She went too far. 

When the Bynum – Weeks controversy erupted, I was sooooo upset. I could not believe a man would beat, kick and stomp a woman like that. It stems from a beating I watched when I was a little girl. I was outside playing when I looked up and saw a man beating a drunken, little petite woman so horribly. And it devastated me to see her just take that beating without trying to defend herself. 

That image of that human being will be with me forever. I still see her face.  So when Weeks beat Bynum, it took me back to my childhood of seeing that woman being so horribly beaten.

What I like about my blog readers is that 99% of them were sensitive to my feelings and were veeeeeery cautious about the way they handled the discussion of Bynum-Weeks in the beginning. When they disagreed with me, they did it in a way that was easy to take. 

Now that I’m over the shock of him beating her and I’m not as upset about it, the readers are now speaking their feelings stronger because they are in tune with me and they know that it’s okay now to let it all out.  LOL!

But do you understand what I’m saying? When in Rome, do as the Romans do. And if that won’t work, remain quiet for a minute.

This is simply a Public Service Announcement to the lurkers.