By: Lynn Green
I do not care for Michael Baisden but I enjoy talk radio. From time to time, I will channel surf over to him to see what he is up to. Today he was discussing the topic of women in adultery and the pain they feel during the holiday season as their married man spends time with his own wife and family. The first woman I heard speak was actually talking out of two sides of her face. First she said that she is lonely during the holidays because her boyfriend is with his family and in the next breath she lied and said he spends at least two nights a week with her and holidays with her.The second woman I heard speak said that she pondered the loneliness she would feel during the holidays and broke things off with her married man.
Here is the long and short of it. Any woman who is slipping, sliding and slithering around meeting up with a married man is beyond pathetic. Look, what woman would have such low self worth that she would settle for a man who clearly is in love with his own wife. Why settle for leftovers?
Many men will use women up. They see loose women (and adulterers are definitely loose) as lap dogs to be used by them for sexual purposes and as a dumping ground for their problems. But what on earth does the mistress get out of it? Nothing. Mistresses get lied to and used. Period.
There is a song out called Bust the Windows Out Your Car. No, that is not necessary. No need acting a fool. Adulterous women know ahead of time what they are getting into. They know that man is not going to leave their decent wives—the mother of their children, for their nasty behinds. Truth is, men don’t even respect the lap dogs they are sleeping with.
If you are slithering around sleeping with a man who is already married, I would advise you to PRESS HERE because it tells the story of your life. And another thing. It is not too late to remove yourself from the role of second class citizen/lap dog. Go get your own man so that you can be #1 in someone’s life, as opposed to wasting your time, energy and life on a lying adultering dog who will never leave his wife and never marry you.
I will not even waste my time or yours giving you scriptures to tell you that you are in sin because you already know that from common sense. I will simply tell you to get up out of that no-win situation.
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No good can come to any woman who knowingly sleeps with another woman’s husband. There are some crafty jokers out there though who lie and say they are not married and go through all sorts of elaborate schemes to appear as though they are truly single.
Years ago, I met one character and briefly dated him, who was adamant that he was SINGLE. He claimed he was divorced and I knew that he had children, but he had his OWN apartment. No signs or traces of any woman living there at all. Turns out, he had rented a ‘bachelor pad’, but told his wife he rented “office space” for his business he had at the time.
He screwed up though by taking me to dinner one evening and using a credit card. His wife found the bill and investigated and learned that his ‘office’ had a queen sized bed, sofa, large television and many clothes that he wore.
I can’t even describe how I felt after learning that this man lied to both me AND his wife, not to mention my family, whom he had also met. I prayed and asked God for forgiveness as I truly did not know and there were no warning signs to indicate that he was married and I also prayed for a more discerning spirit to spot these lying wonders who are out there preying on women and trying to have their cake and eat it too.
You bring up a good point, Diva. Some men are devious and evil. I have more respect for the brothers who tell the adultering woman straight up what she is getting into. But to set a sister up, pretending that he is divorced is a bit much. He must have been doing well financially to afford that extra apt. He was a real jerk.
Diva, I am glad that you highlighted some of the devious vermin that are out there and yes they can be quite crafty. I also know of one who kept a side apartment. He was a district manager for UPS.
Lynn, there is one statement of yours that I disagree with – “Look, what woman would have such low self worth that she would settle for a man who clearly is in love with his own wife. Why settle for leftovers?”
For the ones that are knowingly on the prowl, I don’t think that it is all that clear that they are in love with their wives. If they were so in love, why don’t they keep their behines at home??? I have a relative who was in an adulterous relationship for years. I totally agree with you regarding the wrongness of her actions, but from what I have witnessed, the woman gets the short end of the stick every time in terms of blame. When their affair came to light, she was black listed and was the focus of a big scandal. His actions were swept under the rug. Why is that?? Is it not the husband who is breaking his marrital vows?? The scorn should be spread around evenly and these wives need to stop focusing so much on the women and start shaking their fingers at their philandering husbands.
Of course there are situations where the man was sneaky and was the rare 1% of the population who could afford an apartment on the side.
VERY FEW men can afford an on-the-side apartment, however. So that would mean that the vast majority of women who are slithering around with another woman’s husband is doing so because she is desperate and straight up nasty. Simple as that.
well, I know instances where the men go in together to maintain a residence, and take turns. Where there is a will there is a way. We must also remember the women caught in adultery and the mercy Jesus had towards her. Go and sin no more…
Maybe I need to start over.
I’m not referencing situations where men have been deceptive and are going in with other men to pay for apartments.
I’m referencing women who consciously date men who they know full well are married. That’s what this blog article is referencing. Wanted to clarify that.
What is sad is when “so-called-saved-woman” that are serving in the house of the Lord deliberately go after married men. They are nothing more than “women at the well” that have run through other women’s husbands, but haven’t run into Jesus…
Church harlots, planted by the enemy to breakup the marriage covenant that is honorable in God’s sight.
I have a good friend that is going through this as I type. I am standing in agreement with her as she is believing and trusting God for the restoration of her marriage.
The world will do what it does…lie, cheat,steal, adultery, fornication, etc, but when it comes (and has come) into the church, that’s when the true saints need to start praying, asking God for discernment and openly rebuke those worldly, sensual wolves as it states in the book of Jude. And like Paul said in Corinthians, if they do not want to repent, kick them out, don’t even eat with them and turn their flesh over so that their soul may be saved.
With so much I’m seeing, reading and hearing about this very same subject that’s going on in the church, all I can is that Judgment begins at the house, and if the church is judged, how much more will the ungodly get it…come quickly Lord Jesus!
I listen to several different talk radio shows and Michael is one of them. When I listened to his show about the mistress I got something else out of it. He was saying why can’t people tell their mates the truth so they don’t end up in situations like this. He was especially hard on men who can’t tell the other woman he’s married or attached.
Baisden even said he cheated when he was married. That’s why he’s single today. If someone knows they can’t be monogamous, they need to remain single.
I listened to Brad Pitt when he was married to Jennifer. He was telling the host he wasn’t sure about human monogamy. I wondered what kind of marriage he was in. Prey tell, not too long after that is when the stories came out about him and Angelina Jolie. Brad and Jen had been separated for several months before Brad even met Angelina. Angelina was labeled the homewrecker but she couldn’t do any more than Brad allowed.
I’ve always been too selfish, besides the moral issues, to date any married or attached person. First, I’m not about to break up a sister’s house. Next, I can’t deal with being scheduled into a calendar. I have to be able to spend time with my partner at all times, not just when he can get away from his family. I love the holidays and couldn’t imagine crying my eyes out because I couldn’t see him on Christmas day!
Now, I have seen situations where a woman has met, fallen deeply in love with a man and didn’t know he was married until either someone told her or she found out. That’s a weaning process. You can’t love someone today and say goodbye today. She has to wean herself, as much as it hurts, from him.
I’ve seen too many scenarios with this 3 partner relationship stuff. When one married guy asked me out, I asked how his wife would feel about it (some coworkers had told me he was married), he almost fainted. LOL.
In my above listed example, my aunt did know that the man was married and carried on a relationship with him for years. Was she wrong? Most definitely. I just wanted to illustrate that it is often times the female who gets the majority of the scorn in these situations. Men normally are barely slapped on the wrist. The wives tend to reserve their venom for the other woman, when in my opinion, they should be furious with the person that made vows with them.
@deelove: So true. I see the women wanting to put a pitchfork in the other woman but do nothing to their husbands. It is mindboggling.
Also, who has all that energy to be keying cars, fighting, stabbing, busting out windows, stalking and all of that crazy stuff somes wives and mistresses do?
I’ll ask everyone to read the title of this thread: It’s about WOMEN who are alone this holiday season while their married boyfriends are off with their wives and families. And I even discussed how I arrived at my topic. It was by listening to a talk show on this exact topic.
As a general rule, WOMEN are the ones who end up hurt in such relationships. Men could not care less. They just move on to the next fool or floozie.
The truth of the matter is, men would be cut off at the pass if women would say no and keep their drawers pulled up. Instead, too many women are sitting around crying and hoping for him to leave his wife for them, which almost never happens.
Like a broken record I’m always talking about how I believe in the building of FAMILIES in the black community. It’s hard to build or mend a family unit when adultery is going on. So yes, I’m totally against adultery and against married men who chase after women. I’m also against women who slither and slide around with other women’s husbands. It’s foul.
This topic is about WOMEN because women can stop this nonsense by saying no. Men who are promiscuous can only go as far as women allow them to go.